Tag Archives: trait

That explains nothing

Help. I’m sorry to start with such a stark word, but I truly feel like I need some help right now. Life with Asperger’s is at times full and happy, but I also find it to be filled with big periods of confusion, stress, anxiety, and unfortunately, hopelessness. These feelings have been so repetitive through my thirty-seven [...]

Diagnosed: Part 2

Where do I start? Two weeks ago I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. That didn’t come as a surprise – I have after all been talking on this website for nearly eighteen months now in a matter-of-fact way as though it was already a done deal. The diagnosis left me feeling both shocked and relieved. [...]

Subtlety

I have always been astonishingly good at faux pas. Since my self-realisation eighteen months or so ago that I have Asperger’s, there has of course been a reasonable explanation for this. Whilst I prefer to hide in the background, I do often say or do things are are simply not subtle. I say things that [...]

A different focus

I wasn’t intending to have a break in writing these last few weeks – it’s just the way that things have worked out. Interestingly, the reasons behind my lack of writing have ended up being very life-affirming for me. First, the good news: I was approached by someone I used to work with a couple [...]

Relationships with women and tales of regret

When I was growing up, my relationships with women were unusual. This article covers a time line that stretches from my early teenage school days, right through to my mid twenties, and as such, covers situations that happened at school, university and in my early work life. This article is deeply personal, and contains mild [...]

Maybe we are not so different…

This, in a sense, is a follow up to the article I wrote earlier about my experience with dipping into autism advocacy. If you haven’t already done so, it would make sense for you to read that article first. – Imagine if you will, a hypothetical mother. She has an autistic son. She believes that [...]

Sitting on the advocacy fence

I got a shock last week, and it has made me realise that I have been subconsciously keeping quite a tight control over what I read and how I publicise my blog. In a blog article I wrote a week or so ago, I lamented about how few hits the blog was getting. I felt [...]

Awareness versus propaganda

I’m glad I live in the UK. Here in the UK, autism isn’t well understood outside of families that have been touched by it. I believe it’s still very much seen as a condition in kids that causes them not to interact with others, and to rock backwards and forwards. Many people in the UK [...]

The mighty earworm

I first heard the term earworm a few years ago, when it was used by one of my online acquaintances. I immediately knew what it referred to, and I suspect that many of you will to. An earworm is a section of music of song that gets trapped in your head, and goes round and [...]

Blurry-eyed boy

These days, if you catch me after I’ve been busy for a while, you may find me to be initially unresponsive. Many people over the years have commented that I seem to be away in a little day dream world. From my perspective it’s no day dream, its more of a shut down. Let me [...]