Tag Archives: stress

Better to know?

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you’ll know that I discovered my Asperger’s  in the autumn of 2008, when I was thirty five years old. Until that point in my life, I’d been plagued with feeling different from everyone else, getting into many scrapes of my own making that I didn’t see [...]

What to do next

For as long as I have been in the IT profession, my best work has been produced from the ideas of other people. Tell me what needs doing, and I’ll do it. Typically I’ll do it well, and with a great attention to detail. Leave me to my own devices, and I’ll struggle to determine [...]

Oh no, I’ve done it again!

It’s my first day back at work today, after a week of holiday. I arrived at work a little after 0930, switched on the various PCs on my desk, and started to work through the large volume of email that had built up over the week. And then it happened. It always happens. I read [...]

The work problem

I could have called this article Life derailed: part 2 or maybe even Derailed job. It’s really a continuation of my thoughts from the article I wrote yesterday, but applied to my work life. My work life hasn’t been derailed as yet, well not completely at any rate. In my article yesterday I talked about [...]

Camouflage, understanding, and a Big Professor

I’ve recently become aware that there are a number of non-typical things that I do when speaking to people, particularly when it’s a one-to-one conversation. The conversation subject could be anything, but the examples I use below are based on a work scenario, where something technical is being discussed. Perhaps the most obvious (and annoying) [...]

Partying with kids

It was my son’s fifth birthday a week or two ago, and we arranged a bowling party for him and twenty or so of his friends. It was one of his best friends birthday the following day too, so we had a joint party between the two families, to help spread the load and the [...]

Opening up: A stressful couple of weeks

I’m sure you know how it goes. You don’t find a release for your frustrations, and they very quickly build up, giving you an uncomfortable dose of anxiety. Well, that’s certainly what has been been happening with me these last couple of weeks. There are a number of things at play. Firstly, I’ve decided that [...]

Feeling the fear

If you are on the spectrum, then you probably know this feeling. It’s the one where you look like a rabbit caught in car headlights just before it gets hit. Fear is never far away for me. I’m sure it is connected to my background stress and anxiety in some way, but frankly the feeling [...]

A dinner party, Aspie style

Last weekend, my wife and I hosted a dinner party for six. This is an unusual event in our household, but we had been to evenings at the other couples houses recently, so it was our turn to entertain. With my new-found hyper-awareness of how my Asperger’s affects me, I wondered how the evening would [...]

Common sense

As someone who sees logic as being at the core of how I act and interact, I seem to have a lot of problems with another concept that would also appear to be governed by logic a lot of the time – common sense. It’s not that I don’t have any common sense – I [...]