The work problem
I could have called this article Life derailed: part 2 or maybe even Derailed job. It’s really a continuation of my thoughts from the article I wrote yesterday, but applied to my work life.
My work life hasn’t been derailed as yet, well not completely at any rate. In my article yesterday I talked about how my life at work hasn’t lived up to my youthful neurotypical aspirations. There is no question that my neurology has held me back versus my non-AS peers, but I’ve still managed to perform adequately, especially when well managed.
But how long will that last? I don’t mean here that I’m likely to go off the rails simply because I now know about my AS. This is a slightly more subtle and long-term problem. I’m thirty six now, which means that in a few short years I’ll be forty. Age in itself isn’t the problem, but age and work mixed together is.
In general, I’m comfortable with the type of work I do these days. It’s technical work, and often repetitive. The problem is that older people don’t do jobs like this in the UK. I’ve been involved in the interview process with enough companies to know that technical ability (and I’m no genius on that side of things) doesn’t count for everything. Running alongside it is that wonderful characteristic of team fit. Here in the UK, you can’t use age as a reason for refusing someone a job. You can, however legitimately refuse to employ someone because you believe they wouldn’t be a good fit into the existing team, and I’ve been on interview panels where older applicants were rejected for that very reason.
IT is a young man’s game. The industry is full of bright young things fresh out of University, and I get a year older than the average age every year. As people progress in years, they also progress in skills, and usually up the corporate ladder too. Most of my peers are now either technical architects (which is about as far as you can go technically, and is a job reserved for the truly technically gifted), or are managers of IT teams. They’re either at the pinnacle of the technical ladder, or have already started to leave it behind.
At the moment I can still find work, but in the last three companies I’ve worked for I’ve been one of the oldest members of the team. In my last job, for a major online retailer, I was in my early to mid thirties, and the average age of what was a very skilled team was mid to late twenties. That’s quite a gulf. How much longer will it be before I find it difficult to land roles, no matter how well I come across in interviews? How long will it be before I’m hitting that “He could do the job, but he wouldn’t fit into the team” problem?
My IT train will get derailed in time, I have no doubt.
What can I do about it? Well, the standard route that my peers take to avoid the problem – moving into team management and ultimately further up the managerial ladder isn’t a realistic option for me. So what could I do instead?
I could take contract roles in IT. My view is that if you contract in IT in the UK, then you can go on in technical roles for a good few extra years than if you were in a permanent role. Whilst contracting is an option, I’m not well suited to it. Contracting is a risky game, with no job security. It often involves lots of short term roles with different people in different locations. As I’ve written before, it takes me a long time to settle in and find my feet in a new job, which makes short term contracts stressful for me, and stops me performing at my best.
I could start my own company. I’m reasonable at money management, and have a useful skill in setting up and managing email and websites that I could build a business around. I’m hopeless at marketing however, so finding clients and selling my talents to them would be difficult, and without a decent number of clients the business wouldn’t be viable. This, I guess is a dream that there is an outside chance might come true, but it would take a tremendous amount of effort and courage for it to be in with a fighting chance.
What about low risk options? Well, I could take a technical role whilst I still can with a large company that offers job security. I would need to join with the mindset that no matter how annoyingly badly run the company turned out to be, I’d have to grin and bear it. With a technical position in a large corporate, I could potentially tread water and stay in technical roles for years, but at the cost of not being able to move companies. My neurotypically-programmed responses tell me that this is a very lazy way to work, and I suspect that is how it would come cross to my managers in the company – “James has no ambition…”.
I could look at doing something completely different, outside of the technical IT world. Perhaps I should hone my writing skills and get into technical writing. I understand many technologies and my AS abilities to see things in detail may help me to document things. Could I motivate myself to write every day for a living however? I don’t know.
Maybe I should go and work in a shop. That would be less stress, but would have the difficulties involved in having to interact with people all day. It also wouldn’t bring in the sort of money that my family are used to living on.
There are no easy answers to this one, but ultimately I need to give this some serious thought, before it’s too late and I find that my train is completely derailed. That’s the one thing that isn’t an option.
Suggestions welcome!
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Rachel on June 24th, 2009 Rachel(Quote)
It’s good that you’ve posted about this, because this is so *not* a moment to try and go it alone.
I’ve been thinking since your last post that it’s not your life that’s getting derailed. It’s your expectations.
I think it’s really important that you think as far outside the box as possible. You say your family is used living on a certain amount of money. Fair enough, but I’d bet that if you discussed this whole issue with your spouse (and anyone else in the family who you feel would be supportive), you’d find that your well being is much more important to them than a certain kind of lifestyle. I know that those NT expectations loom large (especially for men, with whom the larger culture can be very unforgiving), but reality has a way of making itself heard one way or another.
The reality is that your age and your AS are making it difficult for you to keep going as you’ve been going. It’s probably best to approach the situation directly by talking with your loved ones and asking them to help you change course. After all, directness is what we Aspies are known for, right?
Lots of people change course, for all kinds of reasons. You can, too. Some of the process isn’t fun, but there is such a sense of relief at beginning the process that it helps carry you through.
Feel free to email me if you like. I’m happy to lend a supportive ear.
James on June 24th, 2009 James(Quote)
Rachel,
You are right, of course, it is my expectations that are getting derailed. The trouble is I don’t at the moment know how to live my life other than by these expectations that I’ve had for so many years, so it really does feel like it’s my life itself that is derailed.
A change of course does sound attractive to me right now, and has done on and off for some considerable time. But a change to what? That’s the difficult bit for me. I clearly need to spend some time talking it through with people.
Thanks for the offer of a supportive ear – I may well take you up on it.
James
leica on June 24th, 2009 leica(Quote)
Age discrimination is getting less common in my opinion. I’m a fair bit older than you and still get jobs, well could before the current economy.
Maybe you can make a 10-year plan, and start looking at setting up a small hosting company or something similar – if you can manage accounts et. al. systematically that’s at least half the battle. It too is a path a lot of your contemporaries take.
Just an idea…
James on June 24th, 2009 James(Quote)
leica,
I’ve already started thinking about running a hosting business, which was actually prompted by someone asking if I could host something for them.
The trouble with this idea isn’t the technical side of things, which I’m sure I could handle, but the other things that go with it.
It would be a lot of work to get it set up, and would clearly have to run in parallel to my current commitments, as the business on it’s own won’t keep my kids fed, at least not in the short to medium term.
To be honest my life already feels very full right now. At times in recent weeks I’ve felt overloaded simply from having too many things to do. Add business responsibilities within a new company I set up and it might be too much.
Does this sound like I’m trying to talk myself out of doing it? Yup – I probably am.
Saja on June 24th, 2009 Saja(Quote)
Might I, as a female mathematics/computer graphics grad and past professional assembly programmer, change one teeny sentence? “IT is a young person’s game.”
I’ve recently heard about several people (friends, friends of friends, and so on) who’ve made dramatic career changes in their 30s and 40s–from chemical engineer to firefighter, from chemical engineer to doctor, things like that. I went from programmer to translator seven years ago. (Still hope to get back to mathematics when the kids get a little older.) I’d say, if there’s some other career that excites you, by all means explore it. It really is never too late to try a new game, and there’s a lot to be said for “sequential careers” that keep you alive and excited, instead of the traditional uni-career path.
James on June 24th, 2009 James(Quote)
Saja,
Ah – but none of those you cite who have changed careers are moving into IT, are they?
I’m sure the picture isn’t quite as black and white as I’ve painted, but I don’t think it’s an overstatement to say that technical jobs like mine – systems administrator – are hard to come by once you are in your 40s.
Something I glossed over somewhat is that I don’t live in or near London. I live in Yorkshire, and whilst there are suitable sys admin jobs around from time to time, their frequency is far fewer than if I were to live in or near London. I’ve put family ahead of work in this respect, and opted for the nice relaxed place to live with the drawback of not having the wide choice of available jobs. Would I move to London again to increase my job opportunities? Absolutely not.
I agree that a change of career is entirely doable at my age and that it may prove to be the best option. But as I replied to Rachel above, figuring out what that change of career would be isn’t providing many leads right now.
Saja on June 24th, 2009 Saja(Quote)
James,
How about your wife working some? Assuming your kids are old enough to swing both of you working, and she has a career she’d like to return to or begin on. I know that in our case, I’d really like to move toward a situation where my husband and I both work, to relieve him of some of the earnings pressure and to fulfill my desire to use my brain. Ideally we’d both be working part time (say 30 hours a week). Might some kind of dual-earner setup work for your family? Just throwing out ideas here.
James on June 26th, 2009 James(Quote)
Saja,
Yes, this is something that will likely happen once both of our kids are at school, which is either just over a year or eighteen months way (depending on how our local authority decide to split intake next year).
My wife used to work as a mental health nurse, and whilst she is keeping her professional registration up to date just in case, she is unlikely to return to the profession. I can’t blame her for that – she spent 15 years in a job that whilst rewarding is also very tough.
She’s not sure yet what she’d like to do with her time, but it is very likely she will work in some way.
In other news, I’ve been mulling over the idea of setting up my own company for months, and during a nice day off from work with my wife yesterday we had a chat about how that might work. We’ve decided that I’ll set up as a sole trader, which is a less formal way of trading here in the UK and will start slowly building things up. I’ll invest a small amount of money to start things rolling and will run it as a side line alongside my regular work. We’ll see how things go. At a minimum it should make us a bit of handy spending money, and give me a better idea of whether this is something I’d like to pursue more formally. If the work doesn’t come in, well, I’ll have lost nothing barring time invested.
James
Anna on July 10th, 2009 Anna(Quote)
Your wife was a nurse? From what I read, nurses and teachers seem to be the recommended professions from which to select wives for males with Aspergers.
Saja on June 26th, 2009 Saja(Quote)
James,
That sounds like a good plan. In 2002 I started a sole proprietorship here in Holland, as a translator. That’s been working really well for me: no employees, no colleagues, total control over my work environment and schedule. In general, remote contract work–in the sense of isolated assignments for different clients that you do in your own office, not theirs–is an ideal setup for an autistic person, at least in my experience. Almost all contact is over e-mail; every project has a distinct beginning and end, and a very clear deadline; and my clients leave me to translate as I see fit (sometimes with interaction in a subsequent editing round, sometimes not).
I hope you’ll enjoy the coming phase! Sounds like a positive change.
James on June 26th, 2009 James(Quote)
Saja,
Thanks for the positive feedback – it is really welcome!
My line of work wouldn’t lend itself to being home-office based quite as much as yours, unfortunately. I’m going to be doing a bit of web/email hosting/management, which will need face to face meetings with people, and some PC repair and upgrade work, which will most likely take place in other people’s homes.
Hopefully it’ll work out and act as a nice second income stream.
If you, ahem, need any websites hosting or email wrangling, then get in touch.
James
Rachel on June 26th, 2009 Rachel(Quote)
For the last seven years of my tech writing career, I did just what Saja did–I set up a tech writing business out of my house. It was perfect, for all the reasons Saja meantioned. It also allowed me to see my daughter every day, which I couldn’t do when I was working on-site.
Ultimately the company I was contracting for offered me a permanent job in which I could still work remotely *and* get paid the same amount as I did as a contractor. Considering that the company was in California and I was in Massachusetts, it worked really well. I got to stay home and make California wages, and my manager always made sure that I was working on projects I liked.
It sounds like a great idea to slowly build up your own business and see how that goes.
James on June 26th, 2009 James(Quote)
Rachel,
It sounds like both you and Saja have been extremely fortunate in the way that things have worked out for you.
It’s great to hear that positive work roles like this do happen, which makes me more confident that I’ll be able to achieve things in my new venture.
Here’s hoping!
James