Comments on: The cuckoo in the nest of life http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life Asperger's Syndrome from the point of view of a self-diagnosed adult Tue, 31 Aug 2010 08:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: James http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-135 James Wed, 15 Apr 2009 11:59:03 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-135 Hi Anon, Wow. That's a <em>fabulous</em> article! I couldn't have put it better myself. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. James Hi Anon,

Wow. That’s a fabulous article! I couldn’t have put it better myself. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.

James

]]> By: Anon http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-134 Anon Tue, 14 Apr 2009 21:04:35 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-134 http://bellsouthpwp.net/d/s/dspicer/BCBE08.html http://bellsouthpwp.net/d/s/dspicer/BCBE08.html

]]> By: Anon http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-132 Anon Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:40:20 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-132 It's like we are emotionally normal on the inside, but the interface thingy between the inside and the outside isn't working. Signals don't come out right, and they don't come in right. On the internet, there is no body language or tone of voice or facial expression. The internet is like our wheelchair. It’s like we are emotionally normal on the inside, but the interface thingy between the inside and the outside isn’t working. Signals don’t come out right, and they don’t come in right. On the internet, there is no body language or tone of voice or facial expression. The internet is like our wheelchair.

]]> By: James http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-131 James Tue, 14 Apr 2009 09:27:33 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-131 leica, I'm sure you are right that we all - typical or not - learn by copying others to an extent. But as I wrote in comment above to Anon, there seems to be a naturalness that I find to be missing when I'm in social situations. It's natural for me to seek out social situations, but when I get there, my sub-concious is suddenly empty. Certain noises have an affect on me as well. Hmmm... I think I can see an article in the making! James leica,

I’m sure you are right that we all – typical or not – learn by copying others to an extent.

But as I wrote in comment above to Anon, there seems to be a naturalness that I find to be missing when I’m in social situations. It’s natural for me to seek out social situations, but when I get there, my sub-concious is suddenly empty.

Certain noises have an affect on me as well. Hmmm… I think I can see an article in the making!

James

]]> By: James http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-130 James Tue, 14 Apr 2009 09:24:00 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-130 Anon, I too crave social contact, but then struggle at it when I get it. It's like something in the back of my sub-concious brain expects me to behave in the normal typical way in social situations, and indeed pushes me towards them. Once I'm there the same sub-concious brain appears to be empty when it comes to how to actually interact. I'm then left with the techniques I've built up over the years of listening and trying to pattern match suitable responses from my memory bank of possible responses. I almost invariably end up feeling uncomfortable and out of place. It's just not natural for me to be sociable, despite it feeling natural to go along to situations where I will need to be social. James Anon,

I too crave social contact, but then struggle at it when I get it.

It’s like something in the back of my sub-concious brain expects me to behave in the normal typical way in social situations, and indeed pushes me towards them. Once I’m there the same sub-concious brain appears to be empty when it comes to how to actually interact. I’m then left with the techniques I’ve built up over the years of listening and trying to pattern match suitable responses from my memory bank of possible responses.

I almost invariably end up feeling uncomfortable and out of place. It’s just not natural for me to be sociable, despite it feeling natural to go along to situations where I will need to be social.

James

]]> By: Anon http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-121 Anon Wed, 08 Apr 2009 18:14:53 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-121 I do not like social kissing, but I endure it because I know it is expected. The only other option would be to avoid social contact, and I don't want to do that, I want social contact, but social kissing is the barrier I must cross to get there. I suppose NTs must like it. I do not like social kissing, but I endure it because I know it is expected. The only other option would be to avoid social contact, and I don’t want to do that, I want social contact, but social kissing is the barrier I must cross to get there. I suppose NTs must like it.

]]> By: leica http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-116 leica Tue, 07 Apr 2009 19:56:42 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-116 I do think to an extent everyone learns by copying others, especially growing up. With AS it seem to be the only way, though. One thing I find very interesting about this post and the blog post that inspired is how really difficult it is to be sensitive to things like noise. A little while back you blogged about how sensitive to touch you are. I feel the same way about noise. To me a din is concentration shatteringly noisy, and loud noises cause me physical pain. I'm not so great at biting my lip though! I do think to an extent everyone learns by copying others, especially growing up. With AS it seem to be the only way, though.

One thing I find very interesting about this post and the blog post that inspired is how really difficult it is to be sensitive to things like noise.

A little while back you blogged about how sensitive to touch you are. I feel the same way about noise. To me a din is concentration shatteringly noisy, and loud noises cause me physical pain.

I’m not so great at biting my lip though!

]]> By: Hanging out with the noisy people « An Ordered Mind http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-114 Hanging out with the noisy people « An Ordered Mind Tue, 07 Apr 2009 13:25:06 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-114 [...] 2009 April 7 tags: Aspergers, Blogs, Change by Soph I really appreciated James’ post in response to mine this morning. I have been wondering why I bottle things up, and I think [...] [...] 2009 April 7 tags: Aspergers, Blogs, Change by Soph I really appreciated James’ post in response to mine this morning. I have been wondering why I bottle things up, and I think [...]

]]> By: Soph http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/the-cuckoo-in-the-nest-of-life/#comment-113 Soph Tue, 07 Apr 2009 13:13:11 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=320#comment-113 I'm so glad you wrote that. I had absolutely no idea why I was blocking my negative emotions out. I think you're right. I often keep quiet about things I don't like doing because I never hear anyone else complaining about the same things. So I fear looking weird. BTW, I'm getting along much better with the noisy people. I decided to make them part of my new routine, and to be sensible about getting out of their way when I can feel myself starting to get tired. I’m so glad you wrote that. I had absolutely no idea why I was blocking my negative emotions out. I think you’re right. I often keep quiet about things I don’t like doing because I never hear anyone else complaining about the same things. So I fear looking weird.

BTW, I’m getting along much better with the noisy people. I decided to make them part of my new routine, and to be sensible about getting out of their way when I can feel myself starting to get tired.

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