Comments on: Saying one thing and doing another http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/saying-one-thing-and-doing-another/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=saying-one-thing-and-doing-another Asperger's Syndrome from the point of view of a self-diagnosed adult Tue, 31 Aug 2010 08:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: James http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/saying-one-thing-and-doing-another/#comment-623 James Mon, 21 Sep 2009 08:21:34 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=639#comment-623 Hi eaucoin, Absolutely. I ruminate a huge amount about all sorts of things. I suspect a good part of this is my trying to categorise what people have said in such a way that I can reuse their phrases as stock answers at a later date. This involves replaying the interaction so that I'm sure of the intent at play, as it typically doesn't come naturally. As regards seeing the detail and missing the bigger picture, well I <a href="http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/traits/the-bigger-picture/" rel="nofollow">wrote about this very thing</a>, back in the day. If I could let it go, I would. Sometimes I can, but often I can't, even when I'm consciously aware of what I'm doing. It's very obsessive compulsive. Hi eaucoin,

Absolutely. I ruminate a huge amount about all sorts of things. I suspect a good part of this is my trying to categorise what people have said in such a way that I can reuse their phrases as stock answers at a later date. This involves replaying the interaction so that I’m sure of the intent at play, as it typically doesn’t come naturally.

As regards seeing the detail and missing the bigger picture, well I wrote about this very thing, back in the day.

If I could let it go, I would. Sometimes I can, but often I can’t, even when I’m consciously aware of what I’m doing. It’s very obsessive compulsive.

]]> By: eaucoin http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/saying-one-thing-and-doing-another/#comment-591 eaucoin Thu, 17 Sep 2009 17:49:31 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=639#comment-591 It seems like you ruminate on conversations after they're over looking for clues about where you might have gone wrong (you begin to wonder if they've seen through your acting). One of the tendencies in Aspergers is to magnify small details and lose the big picture. I think you are subjecting yourself to such intense scrutiny that you are making yourself uncomfortable. Think about how often the dialogue in sitcoms is boring and silly even though a whole group of writers was paid to make up the conversation and don't be so hard on yourself. Then deliberately focus on what the other person said and see whether the conversation taught you anything new about them. If not, just let it go! It seems like you ruminate on conversations after they’re over looking for clues about where you might have gone wrong (you begin to wonder if they’ve seen through your acting). One of the tendencies in Aspergers is to magnify small details and lose the big picture. I think you are subjecting yourself to such intense scrutiny that you are making yourself uncomfortable. Think about how often the dialogue in sitcoms is boring and silly even though a whole group of writers was paid to make up the conversation and don’t be so hard on yourself. Then deliberately focus on what the other person said and see whether the conversation taught you anything new about them. If not, just let it go!

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