Comments on: Common sense http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=common-sense Asperger's Syndrome from the point of view of a self-diagnosed adult Tue, 31 Aug 2010 08:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: TheSpecialKid http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-910 TheSpecialKid Sun, 03 Jan 2010 03:29:52 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-910 "Oh, and I did put the dinner on, but I didn’t pick my daughter up on the way home – I went home first. One good decision, one bad." Not necessarily bad! It could be, that your daughter was having a great time, and she wanted to stay longer, so you did something she liked. That's worth an extra trip, right? “Oh, and I did put the dinner on, but I didn’t pick my daughter up on the way home – I went home first. One good decision, one bad.”

Not necessarily bad!
It could be, that your daughter was having a great time, and she wanted to stay longer, so you did something she liked. That’s worth an extra trip, right?

]]> By: Rachel http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-254 Rachel Fri, 15 May 2009 13:10:17 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-254 Yes, definitely, don't ignore your sensory needs. Although you don't reach sensory overload in the same way that I do (it's astonishing how diverse the spectrum is!), it's always important to take care of yourself. When I was younger, I didn't. As I've gotten older, I've discovered that sensory self-care is one of the hardest habits for me to acquire. Sensory processing slows to some degree as we age, so getting a head start on taking good care of your sensory needs will help in the long run. Yes, definitely, don’t ignore your sensory needs. Although you don’t reach sensory overload in the same way that I do (it’s astonishing how diverse the spectrum is!), it’s always important to take care of yourself. When I was younger, I didn’t. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve discovered that sensory self-care is one of the hardest habits for me to acquire. Sensory processing slows to some degree as we age, so getting a head start on taking good care of your sensory needs will help in the long run.

]]> By: Anna http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-253 Anna Fri, 15 May 2009 11:12:14 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-253 <i>"...the potential to lead to exceptional abilities in specific domains, but also limits the skills that require coordinated efforts of multiple systems (e.g. social and communication skills)."</i> Skills that require coordination of multiple systems - perhaps common sense is one of these skills? “…the potential to lead to exceptional abilities in specific domains, but also limits the skills that require coordinated efforts of multiple systems (e.g. social and communication skills).”

Skills that require coordination of multiple systems – perhaps common sense is one of these skills?

]]> By: James http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-252 James Fri, 15 May 2009 07:42:31 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-252 This sounds very familiar, AJ. Isn't it astounding whilst ASDs cover a broad spectrum of traits that affect each individual differently, that those of us affected have often experienced very similar things? I for one find it rather comforting - I'm not the oddity that I used to think I was. This sounds very familiar, AJ.

Isn’t it astounding whilst ASDs cover a broad spectrum of traits that affect each individual differently, that those of us affected have often experienced very similar things?

I for one find it rather comforting – I’m not the oddity that I used to think I was.

]]> By: James http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-251 James Fri, 15 May 2009 07:39:40 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-251 See - this is what I love about writing this blog. Not only, does writing have the same beneficial effect on me as it does on you, Rachel, but I also have the privilege of having others read what I think and provide their own take on things. This is a gem of a response, Rachel, and has opened up a whole other way of looking at this aspect of my personality that I previously hadn't seen. It's going to need further thought on my part to be sure of things, but you may well be right. I have been seeing things from a neuro-typical-centric point of view. Maybe that view isn't in my own best interests in this case. I don't suffer from the same degree of nervous system overload as you, but clearly that doesn't mean I should just ignore it. See – this is what I love about writing this blog. Not only, does writing have the same beneficial effect on me as it does on you, Rachel, but I also have the privilege of having others read what I think and provide their own take on things.

This is a gem of a response, Rachel, and has opened up a whole other way of looking at this aspect of my personality that I previously hadn’t seen.

It’s going to need further thought on my part to be sure of things, but you may well be right. I have been seeing things from a neuro-typical-centric point of view. Maybe that view isn’t in my own best interests in this case.

I don’t suffer from the same degree of nervous system overload as you, but clearly that doesn’t mean I should just ignore it.

]]> By: AJ http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-250 AJ Fri, 15 May 2009 05:41:07 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-250 I have often thought of myself, in similar situations, as a smart person who does stupid things. Looking back on those times it almost seems as if I was not there to make the decision, but I know I was. I just don't understand why I reacted the way I did. I have often thought of myself, in similar situations, as a smart person who does stupid things. Looking back on those times it almost seems as if I was not there to make the decision, but I know I was. I just don’t understand why I reacted the way I did.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/experience/common-sense/#comment-249 Rachel Thu, 14 May 2009 18:21:17 +0000 http://www.thatexplainseverything.com/?p=461#comment-249 Personally, I don't think you lack common sense. It sounds like you've got loads of it. But you seem to have difficulty sequencing tasks because although conventional logic/common sense might dictate one path, your neurology seems to dictate another. For example, you say that you can put off the blog article, because it's not as important as other things. Well, in my mind, that may or may not be true. Do others need you immediately? Will people be hungry the minute they get home, or will they have picked something up on the way? Will you be agitated and exhausted by having a blog post in your head for hours? If so, would it make more sense to take some time to write, and ask your wife for help with dinner that night? Will it help you avoid a migraine, or a meltdown, or just out-and-out exhaustion? What seems like common sense to a typical person, who can take all these things in stride, may not make any sense at all to an Aspie. Our nervous systems work differently, so common sense can sometimes work against us. Writing is very important to me. I enjoy it, it helps me make sense of things, and it calms me. So, in our family, we bring that into the equation when parceling out tasks. Slowly but surely, I'm learning that what my nervous system needs is very important. I've left it at the bottom of the list for most of my life. But it's moving up. ;-) Personally, I don’t think you lack common sense. It sounds like you’ve got loads of it. But you seem to have difficulty sequencing tasks because although conventional logic/common sense might dictate one path, your neurology seems to dictate another.

For example, you say that you can put off the blog article, because it’s not as important as other things. Well, in my mind, that may or may not be true. Do others need you immediately? Will people be hungry the minute they get home, or will they have picked something up on the way? Will you be agitated and exhausted by having a blog post in your head for hours? If so, would it make more sense to take some time to write, and ask your wife for help with dinner that night? Will it help you avoid a migraine, or a meltdown, or just out-and-out exhaustion?

What seems like common sense to a typical person, who can take all these things in stride, may not make any sense at all to an Aspie. Our nervous systems work differently, so common sense can sometimes work against us.

Writing is very important to me. I enjoy it, it helps me make sense of things, and it calms me. So, in our family, we bring that into the equation when parceling out tasks. Slowly but surely, I’m learning that what my nervous system needs is very important. I’ve left it at the bottom of the list for most of my life. But it’s moving up. ;-)

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