A hangover without alcohol
Yes really.
I woke up on Monday morning, and felt terrible. My head pounded, my view of the world felt hazy and I had pain in my kidneys. I felt decidedly hungover. I cursed myself for drinking on what had been a rare night of being on my own.
And then it dawned on me. I hadn’t been drinking. No alcohol whatsoever. I was confused…
I’ve spent some time thinking about this over the course of the week, and I wonder if I’ve figured out what was going on.
I had an odd weekend. It was a mixture of very high stress, too much sensory input and very quiet evenings of solitude. My sister in law gave birth to her first child – a healthy boy – on Friday, and my wife played the part of dutiful auntie and went to see them on Saturday morning. This left me with our two kids from then until Monday evening.
Saturday went well. I’d managed to plan it a bit, and everything slotted together nicely, albeit with high stress on my part. On Saturday evening, I drank a couple of glasses of rather nice red wine, and stayed up later than I should. This was me making the most of my alone time, and also trying to unwind a little from the stresses of the day.
On Sunday, I had some help, in the shape of my father in law. I, of course had to do all the arranging, driving, and cooking, but he helped entertain the kids, and for that I’m very grateful. I was tired, having not got enough sleep, and was feeling hungover too. The hangover was very much like it would prove to be on Monday morning, but I didn’t pay much attention – after all, I had been drinking on Saturday night.
As previously mentioned, I took it easy on Sunday night, mindful of how I had felt that morning. I knew I had the kids on my own on Monday, so alcohol was completely out of the question, and I felt really quite exhausted, and a little displeased at how I had managed to tackle the day. So I relaxed in the evening once more, but didn’t go to bed late.
Monday morning’s hangover was worse than Sunday’s had been.
I dragged the kids out to a local attraction for the day feeling lousy, stressed, and acting decidedly grumpy. I didn’t enjoy it, although the kids seemed to, which was the important thing.
I can’t tell you how relieved I was to go and pick up my wife from the railway station on Monday evening. Nearly three days of having the kids to myself had been a huge drain on my resources. So much so, infact that when I awoke on Tuesday morning feeling not at all refreshed and hungover once more, I booked the day off work to recover. My wife kindly took the kids out for the day so I got most of the day to myself to recover slowly.
So – why was I feeling hungover each morning, despite not drinking?
Well, whilst I don’t recall often having felt this way without alcohol, I can think of many occasions in my life where I’ve spent an evening out drinking in loud and crowded bars, and have come home feeling completely overstimulated. The hangover on the day after a night like this is always quite spectacularly bad.
What if this sort of hangover wasn’t completely alcohol induced?
Remember that too much sensory input leaves me with my senses shutting down – my eyes glaze and I lose focus and my brain starts to block out much of what I’m hearing. To protect me from what have become hostile inputs, my body starts to shut off the senses through which I receive the hostile inputs.
What if much of what I’ve always perceived as a hangover is actually a more extreme shutdown response? Certainly the fuzzy head I experience along with a lack of focus is rather like the visual shutdown that I get at times of over-stimulation. The grumpiness I meter out when hungover is almost always directed towards attempts to make me accept more sensory input once more. For example, I was grumpy with the kids at the weekend when I felt hungover because they were pestering me to pay attention to them. When I feel hungover, I’d rather just sit and do nothing, processing as little sensory information as possible.
Do you see the similarity there?
Maybe when I have a day or even just an evening where I get far too much sensory input, I then get a sensory-induced hangover the next morning, regardless of whether I was drinking alcohol or not.
It’s easy to see how I might not have spotted it before – after all in my day to day life, it’s only really going to be nights out drinking in loud bars where I’m going to get really badly over-stimulated. And the hangover from those nights can easily be put down to alcohol.
I think I need a few more examples of this happening without alcohol to be sure, but right now it feels like there is some sort of correlation there, and that I’m not just imagining it.
Have any of you noticed a similar effect?
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Rachel on September 4th, 2009 Rachel(Quote)
James, there is an interesting piece of synchronicity here. Earlier today, I was telling my (new, autism-literate) therapist that the morning after a bout of sensory overload feels exactly like a hangover!
For instance, I went out to dinner this summer with my husband, my daughter, and her friend. What was I thinking? A four-way conversation in a public place? Forget it. I paid for it for *days,* and the sensation was very reminiscent of my earlier experiences of waking up the morning after an evening of partying.
I haven’t consumed any alcohol in about 20 years, but I remember how lousy the hangovers were–my primary reason for giving up alcohol completely. But now, after reading your post, I’m thinking that the severity of the hangovers was due to the sensory overload of the bar, party, or gathering as well as the alcohol.
Wow. Amazing.
James on September 9th, 2009 James(Quote)
Rachel,
Please excuse the lateness of this reply.
How wonderful that someone else experiences this in the same way as me, because that means I’m not just imagining it!
The big problem this bring me, however, is that regular life with a job and a young family means that I’m experiencing this sensory hangover frequently.
I think that for now I just have to live with it, whilst trying to come up with low-impact ways to reduce it. I can’t pack in my job, and I can’t evade the fact that my life is filled with two small kids.
James
Alison on September 5th, 2009 Alison(Quote)
I find that when I experience sensory overload on one day, I need at least the next day to recover, and relating the effects to that of a hangover from alcohol describes it very well. Here is my most recent experience:
On Thursday afternoon, I went to the dentist for a two-part appointment. I was early, and they called me in for the first half on time. However, the dentist was in surgery and couldn’t see me for the second half right away. I was sent to the waiting room (complete with 4 receptionists, kids, a TV, ringing phones etc.)
After 40 minutes I was at my limit. I had my sunglasses with me, but hadn’t brought my ipod because I thought I would only be there a short time, and I live a 5 minute walk away. I decided to re-book, because I knew at this point I was unable to keep up a “polite public facade”.
I was told that it would only be 2 more minutes. Well, it was much longer. As a result of the sensory overload, my disposition changed dramatically and I was quite rude with both the staff and the dentist, while trying not to cry. They know I have AS and SPD but apparently were not aware that this actually would cause difficulty for me.
Anyway, to make a very long story longer, I found a dentist that makes home visits and is recommended for children with autism. (I am an adult, but am going to take advantage of it.) Since Thursday, I have been at home recovering and even today (Saturday) am not able to go out.
Also, this is my first post here, and I would like to say I really enjoy reading your blog, so thank you!
James on September 9th, 2009 James(Quote)
Hi Alison,
Welcome to the blog. I’m really glad you enjoy it – it makes writing it feel so worthwhile when people make nice comments like that.
In situations like the one you describe, it takes a little longer for my sense of overload to build – I would have been decidedly on edge and wanting to leave by the time I was seen for the second appointment, but I wouldn’t often experience it to the degree that you so obviously did. I do fully understand just how horrible it can feel, however.
You talk about taking several days to recover, but not specifically how it feels. Do you relate to the hangover-like symptoms that I described?
I’m really interested to know whether it is quite a common feeling for those of us on the Spectrum, or something more unusual.
Do let me know, and I hope that you’ll continue to share your thoughts on the blog. The more people share their experiences, the better we all understand them.
James
DonkeyBuster on September 7th, 2009 DonkeyBuster(Quote)
Yes, it does take me at least a day to recover from major overload situations… airplane travel, large parties, major people time. In fact, just a couple of weeks ago a pair of high-energy acquaintances overwhelmed me in about 15 minutes and I had to go home and ‘sleep it off’ for 3 hours.
Alcohol doesn’t even begin to leave me feeling that bad. LOL
James on September 9th, 2009 James(Quote)
Don’t get me started on air travel…
I tend to arrive at hotels wondering where I am and why I’m there!
AJ on September 11th, 2009 AJ(Quote)
This happens to me too. I hope that this does not come off the wrong way. I know how to use alcohol to quiet my mind. This can be very helpful to me at times, when I am allowed to be to myself. On a night like that I can easily drink far more with no hangover than a night out at a bar or at a party. I have much more of a hangover feeling after a night spent with my relatives where I don’t drink any alcohol at all.
DonkeyBuster made a good point about high-energy people. I have a friend who’s son drives me crazy. He never shuts up. There is a constant stream of BS coming from him. I can spend 10 minutes with him and need to withdraw for hours. He justs gets to me. Yet I know that he is a good kid (18 now) and means well. Some people just have that effect on me.
James on September 11th, 2009 James(Quote)
Hi AJ,
I too use alcohol to ‘quiet my mind’. If I feel stressed or anxious, then a single glass of wine or bottle of beer has a wonderfully calming and numbing effect on me. This is a truly wonderful feeling when compared to the horrible feeling of the anxiety and stress. A single drink like this is my preferred way of consuming alcohol these days, and it rarely causes me any hangover.
My kids drive me crazy sometimes. Ten minutes of rough and tumble with them can cause me to need quiet time immediately for a while. Not hours, usually, but if I could get away with it, and hour would be great. One of my issues, however is that I don’t get my own way on this. I have parental responsibilities, and I can’t just disappear to be on my own to recover – I just have to get on with things. Not great, but not impossible either.